Nicole stands up for something (or another)

fuckyeahsexpositivity:

swankivy:

I see a lot of “Oh, poor asexuals, you’re invisible.” Followed by a bunch of outrageous homophobic anecdotes that suggest gay people have it worse and therefore asexuals have NOTHING to complain about.  Well, let me tell you a few things about what invisibility means.

Invisibility means not being able to connect with others like you.  It means being very likely to come to the conclusion that you are broken.  It means seeing no boxes to check and being filled with fear or shame.  It means being isolated in a way that is unimaginable to most people who take their visibility for granted.

And it means that as soon as you try to get seen—regardless of whether you’re just asking the initial questions or deliberately spreading asexual-specific awareness—you will be subjected to some of the most vile attitudes and unreasonable requests for justification that you will probably start wondering if that invisibility was really so bad.

Any asexual who comes out of the closet must be prepared to defend the very existence of the orientation against comments like “No, see a head doctor” and “I’m sorry, but that’s not a real thing” and “If you love someone, you have to want to have sex with them” and “Sex with me will fix you.”  We’re told, through these messages, that we’re expected to be quiet unless we want people to interrogate us about everything from our sexual experiences to the functionality of our genitals.

And the messages we’re complaining about aren’t along the lines of “It’s unpleasant that people sometimes say ignorant and hurtful things to us.”  The messages are often much more subtle … and we all grow up in the thick of them, building our brains around a “way things are” that doesn’t fit us.  We’re not the only people this happens to.  But when our problems are considered irrelevant because they are literally obscured by someone else’s more visible problems, it’s hard to imagine a much clearer example of the power of invisibility.

Is it really so difficult to acknowledge that our problems are worth discussing even if they are not your problems? 

How dare you look at us and say “So what?” just because it isn’t you?

And this is why intersectionality is important and people need to stop being assholes.

(via fuckyeahsexeducation)

fuckyeahsexeducation:

thecuntmentality:

roseverbena:

You may call me female.

You may call me woman.

You may refer to me as she, her.

You may NOT refer to me as “cis”, because “cis” is anti-woman hate-speech.

Respect my boundaries.

Do you not know what words mean. 

Do you not know how to use google.

Cis is an adjective jackass. It describes the type of woman you are. Like tall, fat, short, cis, trans*. These words are adjectives, it is not hate-speech. 

Love,

Taylor

Whenever I hear people say they don’t like the word cis and they want to be referred to as “woman” and “man” I say that you better be okay with trans women and trans men being referred to as just “woman” and “man”

transqueery:

75% of Americans think being Transgender is a choice.

gotchies:

socialistexan:

Compared to 47% thinking that being gay is a choice. (http://www.queerty.com/47-of-america-thinks-being-gay-is-a-choice-and-yet-43-supports-gay-marriage-20091218/)

* 61 percent believe the country needs laws to protect transgender
people from discrimination.

* 57 percent incorrectly believe that it is not legal to fire a person
just because they are transgender.

* 67 percent agree that it is possible for a person to be born as one
sex, but inside feel like another sex.

* 53 percent believe it is “all right” for a person to be transgender,
while 37 percent believe that it is wrong.

* 77 percent of people believe that transgender students should be
allowed to attend public schools.

* 48 percent of Americans would have “no problem” working with a
transgender person, while only 8 percent claim they “would not” be willing
to.

(via fuckyeahsexeducation)